Prince Edward North Pastoral Charge June 20,  2021    10:30am      Celebrating our Fathers

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ANNOUNCMENTS

  1. Birthdays and Anniversaries
  2.  ZOOM Bible study –  Monday at 7pm.
  3. ZOOM Coffee time/Bible study :   Cancelled
  4. READ THE BIBLE IN A YEAR: WEEK 30. Starting June 20

Sunday ( Epistles)                   1 Thessalonians 1-3

Monday (The Law)        Leviticus 19-21

Tuesday ( History)         2 Kings  16-20

Wednesday (Psalms)      Psalms 87-89

Thursday (Poetry)                   Proverbs 13

Friday (Prophecy)                   Ezekiel 37-42

Saturday (Gospels)        Luke   23-24 

5. BOARD MEETING    July 8 7pm zoom 

6. Rev. Barb will be on vacation for the next 2 weeks. Please be advised that Rev. Spicer from Wellington is oncall for any pastoral emergencies.

MISSION STATEMENT

We are a group of followers of Jesus Christ, worshipping Jesus Christ as Lord, making God’s love known to all ages through joyful, warm worship and compassionate caring for one another, our community, and God’s creation.

GATHERING MOMENT & PRAYER:   

“One morning my father didn’t get up and go to work. He went to the hospital and died the next day. I hadn’t thought that much about him before. He was just someone who left and came home and seemed glad to see everyone at night. He opened the jar of pickles when no one else could. He was the only one in the house who wasn’t afraid to go into the basement by himself. He cut himself shaving, but no one kissed it or got excited about it. It was understood that when it rained, he got the car and brought it around to the door. When anyone was sick, he went out to get the prescription filled. He took lots of pictures … but he was never in them. Whenever I played house, the mother doll had a lot to do. I never knew what to do with the daddy doll, so I had him say, “I’m going off to work now” and threw him under the bed. The funeral was in our living room and a lot of people came and brought all kinds of good food and cakes. We had never had so much company before. I went to my room and felt under the bed for the daddy doll. When I found him I dusted him off and put him on my bed. He never did anything. I didn’t know his leaving would hurt so much.” (Erma Bombeck, The Ties that Bind … And Gag! [NY: McGraw-Hill Book Co., 1987], p. 2.)

Today, we’re going to focus in a little on our Fathers, what they do for us,   and why we should honor our fathers and those who have been or are like fathers to us and to our children….

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VIDEO: https://youtu.be/gndV8N9FVRg

Let us pray: Loving God, today we give thanks for those who have fathered us. We give thanks for fathers and grandfathers who have nurtured us,
and for men who have been caregivers and teachers and mentors, who have loved us unconditionally, and who have made us who we are.

We pray for everyone here who fathers someone.
Give them strength to nurture, protect and provide.
Give them wisdom to be role models.
Give them joy as they watch their children learn and grow.
Give them patience as their children test boundaries.
Help them to father lovingly, fairly and with great tenderness.

We are not perfect people. For all the ways fathers have disappointed or failed their children, forgive us. For all the way children have disappointed or failed their fathers, forgive us. Give us the grace to say, “I’m sorry,” and the wisdom to make amends. We thank you God that you never disappoint or fail us.

We pray today for those who have lost fathers or other loved ones this year,

God of fathers, who created fathers, who came as a child and had a father,
God our Father, your love is deep and true, and we are your children, forever and always.  Amen

CONGREGATIONAL SONG: This is God’s Wondrous World VU#296

SHARING MEMORIES

READING:  Deuteronomy 6:1-9

These are the commands, decrees and laws the Lord your God directed me to teach you to observe in the land that you are crossing the Jordan to possess, 2 so that you, your children and their children after them may fear the Lord your God as long as you live by keeping all his decrees and commands that I give you, and so that you may enjoy long life. 3 Hear, Israel, and be careful to obey so that it may go well with you and that you may increase greatly in a land flowing with milk and honey, just as the Lord, the God of your ancestors, promised you.

4 Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one.[a] 5 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. 6 These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. 7 Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. 8 Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. 9 Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.

MUSICAL INTERLUDE   Thank you, Brenda

REFLECTION:

After talking to some fathers & grandfathers, when asked:  What makes you happy?  Most of them said that they are happy when their children are happy. So I asked: .What do you do to help make your children happy.?  And they gave me these 7 answers.. 

  1. We love them the best we can.…. sometimes it’s easy to love them…..and sometimes it’s not……..

A small boy is sent to bed by his father.

 Five minutes later: “Da-ad…”
“What?”
“I’m thirsty. Can you bring me a drink of water?”

 “No. You had your chance. Lights out.”
Five minutes later: “Da-aaaad…”
“WHAT?”
“I’m THIRSTY…Can I have a drink of water??”

“I told you NO! If you ask again I’ll have to spank you!!”
Five minutes later… “Daaaa-aaaad…”
“WHAT??!!”
“When you come in to spank me, can you bring me a drink of water?”

2.We try to provide for them...the best we can –  making sure there’s a roof over their head, clothes on their back and food in their bellies…that they get the education they need, that their teeth are looked after….and whatever else we can give them over and above that, we do…..

3. We spend time with them whenever we can – being there for them, when they need us and even when they don’t….even when we’re tired and don’t really feel like doing it…  Sometimes, there have to be tradeoffs between providing for them and spending time with them….

A man came home from work late, tired and irritated, to find his 5-year old son waiting for him at the door…
SON: ‘Daddy, may I ask you a question?’
DAD: ‘Yeah sure, what it is?’ replied the man…
SON: ‘Daddy, how much do you make an hour?’
DAD: ‘That’s none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing?’ the man said angrily.
SON: ‘I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?’
DAD: ‘If you must know, I make $50 an hour.’
SON: ‘Oh,’ the little boy replied, with his head down.
SON: ‘Daddy, may I please borrow $25?’

The father was furious, ‘If the only reason you asked that is so you can borrow some money to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you are being so selfish… I don’t work hard everyday for such childish frivolities’
The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door.

The man sat down and started to get even angrier about the little boy’s questions. How dare he ask such questions only to get some money?

After about an hour or so, the man had calmed down , and started to think:
Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that $25.00 and he really didn’t ask for money very often The man went to the door of the little boy’s room and opened the door.

‘Are you asleep, son?’ He asked.

‘No daddy, I’m awake,’ replied the boy.

‘I’ve been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier’ said the man. ‘It’s been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you. Here’s the $25 you asked for…’

The little boy sat straight up, smiling. ‘Oh, thank you daddy!’ he yelled. Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled out some crumpled up bills.
The man saw that the boy already had money, started to get angry again.
The little boy slowly counted out his money, and then looked up at his father.

‘Why do you want more money if you already have some?’ the father grumbled.

‘Because I didn’t have enough, but now I do,’ the little boy replied.
‘Daddy, I have $50 now. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow. I would like to have dinner with you.’

The father was crushed. He put his arms around his little son, and he begged for his forgiveness.

4. We teach them life lessons the best we can….. trying to pass down to them a little bit of our knowledge and wisdom – so that they can know what we know and learn from our mistakes……..practical things like how to ride a bike and how to shave; like how to put the bait on the end of a fishing hook or change a tire….; but then the more important things …like  how to stand up for yourself…like knowing which battles to walk away from…like the importance of respect….like putting on a brave front when on the inside you are crumbling…

One man told me says that his father taught him two very important pieces of wisdom which he has tried to abide in his life….one is to never tell a lie….and the second is never build yourself up by tearing someone else down…..

As proverbs says, train up your child in the way he should go and when he is old he shall not depart from it…..

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We teach them Life lessons that are important… but even more important is trying to be an example to them in the way we live our lives….a role model…

 “My father didn’t tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.” – Clarence Budington Kelland

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We try to protect them the best we can…

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Finally, we bring them to church.Hoping and praying that they find wisdom and knowledge that is different from what the world is teaching them.  Hoping and praying that they learn what is really important in life – to love God and love one another. Hoping and praying they can find God and faith,  and that God and faith make their lives fuller and richer and more meaningful. Hoping and praying that they can find peace, no matter what they are facing in their lives.

In a father’s heart is the need to see his children happy……and he will go to great lengths to ensure his children’s happiness. And that is what makes for Wonderful fathers……….

Isn’t this exactly what our Father in heaven does ….God wants us to be happy……and to  make us happy, God loves us, provides for us, protects us, spends time with us, teaches   by word and example and helps us to be the best we can by? Thanks be to God…and thanks be to God for fathers…..

Prayer & the Lord’s Prayer

Let us praise those fathers who have striven to balance the demands of work, marriage, and children with an honest awareness of both joy and sacrifice.

Let us praise those fathers who, lacking a good model for a father, have worked to become a good father.

Let us praise those fathers who by their own account were not always there for their children, but who continue to offer those children, now grown, their love and support.

Let us pray for those fathers who have been wounded by the neglect and hostility of their children.

Let us praise those fathers who, despite divorce, have remained in their children’s lives.

 Let us praise those fathers whose children are adopted, and whose love and support has offered healing.

Let us praise those fathers who, as stepfathers, freely choose the obligation of fatherhood and earned their step children’s love and respect.

 Let us praise those fathers who have lost a child to death, and continue to hold the child in their heart.

Let us praise those men who have no children, but cherish the next generation as if they were their own.

Let us praise those men who have “fathered” us in their role as mentors and guides.

Let us praise those men who are about to become fathers; may they openly delight in their children.

And let us praise those fathers who have died, but live on in our memory and whose love continues to nurture us.

Let us praise you, O heavenly God, for every way you have and do and always will be like a father to us…..We pray in Jesus’ name, to you, Our Father, who  art in heaven…… Amen.

MUSICAL INTERLUDE   Thank you, Brenda

BENEDICTION 

May the love of God, the peace of Christ, and the wisdom and power of the Holy Spirit be with you this day and always.

DISMISSAL 

Go now in peace, never be afraid.

God will go with you each hour of every day.

Go now in faith, steadfast strong and true.

Know He will guide you in all you do.

Go now in love and show you believe.

Reach out to others so all the world can see

God will be there, watching from above.

Go now in peace, in faith, and in love.  Amen